Men Don’t Forgive Cheaters As Easily As Women

by Linda Franklin

Cheating – not a good thing – most of us would agree, but men find it harder than a woman to forgive this betrayal.  If you’re a woman who is thinking about confessing  an indiscretion be ready for the explosion of anger and grief that will follow.  It’s probably even worse than you imagine.

While infidelity has traditionally been regarded as a masculine trait, an increasing number of women are cheating on their husbands. Financial equality plus more time spent at work are fueling this role reversal.

It wasn’t so long ago that women would  have felt obliged to stick at an ailing marriage, these days they don’t feel so compelled to stay.

A surge in power may have propelled women to be unfaithful but the male attitude isn’t changing quite so fast.  For a betrayed man, it’s a slight against his manhood.   It goes right to the core of his identity.

For men, the sexual component of their wife’s affair is very important – they are more concerned about the sexual aspect than if their wife loved the man she slept with.

‘I don’t think a woman’s reason for having an affiar is that different from a man’s –  they’re looking for attention, affection, emotional support that in that’s going to lead to a sexual encounter.

Before you have anything to confess, try improving communication with your mate.  Tell him how you are feeling and see if you can work it out together or with a trained therapist..  If you don’t  you might be headed for a blowup you are not prepared for.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says, ”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

Is He The One? 8 Ways To Know

by Linda Franklin

Women often wonder if they are making the right choice – especially when it comes to their man.  Yes, at the beginning everything is glorious, but when you take off the rose-colored glasses you may not be so sure.  Your dream man too often can morph into your worst nightmare.

Here’s eight ways that can help you to decide if you are heading down the right road with the right guy.

1. Comfortability – You may have just met him but feel you have known him for years. 

2. Meeting of the minds – Your goals, morals and ethics are pretty much rooted in the same beliefs.

3.  Mutual respect and admiration- You encourage each other to be the best you can be - not compete for who’s the alpha dog..

4.  Acceptance – You accept each other for who you are - warts and all. If he is constantly criticizing you or correcting you  – run for the hills!!

5.  Forgiveness Without Resentment – It’s easy to say you forgive your man but be very sure you are not building up a wall of resentment when you do.

6. Sexual Combatability – You can’t fake it – either it’s there or it isn’t. Don’t shortchange yourself.

7. Strength of Character -  You deserve a stand-up guy.  Someone who doesn’t just talk the talk but has demonstrated that he will be there for you in good times and bad.  

8. Financially Responsible - You want a guy who earns and spends his money wisely.  Of course, you have to be on that same responsibility track yourself.  You know how dicey money problems can get. 

Relationships are tough.  Be open and honest right from the start and you will definetely have a leg up on happiness.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

Breaking Point – We All Have One – What’s Yours?

By Linda Franklin 

 

Bad behaviour is often overlooked, or more likely tolerated, in any relationship, but everyone has a breaking point. A woman is likely to stand by her man through lots of harrowing experiences and then snap over something that is relatively less offensive. 

Women can put up with a lot but there is always the straw that breaks the camel’s back.

Anne Sinclair, the wife of former International Monetary Fund chief Dominique Strauss-Kahn, is reportedly considering divorce following claims linking him to a call-girl network in Northern France.  She stood by his side when he was accused of sexual assault, but maybe she’s finally at her breaking point.  Who knows?  I read this weekend they were out together celebrating their anniversary.   

Then there’s Demi Moore who filed for divorce from Ashton Kutcher.  She finally threw in the towel when Sara Leal came forward claiming she cavorted naked in a hot tub with Kutcher in September — on the weekend of their sixth wedding anniversary.

It’s amazing how long both men and women will put up with bad behaviour or extreme unhappiness before they walk away. It’s devastatingly painful to confront the truth that a marriage isn’t working, and sometimes it can be easier to stick with what we know, no matter how bad it is. People tend to need a catalyst. The interesting thing is that there is often no way of knowing what that will be until it happens. 

 

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

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