Lawrence Lanoff is a tantric meditation master. He's a social-satirist-sex-pundit, who questions beliefs and myths. He writes on sex, science, culture, and anything that crosses his mind and body. He wrote this blog that I wanted to share with you. Just in case you ever doubt your own sexuality keep reading. Lawrence is right on.
Last week, the TV show The Doctors did a segment on the sex-drive-differences between men and women. Their theories were comical. Mainly because they continue to look at sex through stereotypical frames and filters.
The out worn idea: men want lots of sex. Women don’t.
When I got up this morning and went through my emails I was surprised to find that The Real Cougar Woman was mentioned in an article in Business Week. I was surprised because I wasn't interviewed for the article, yet there I was.
Here's what it said: The Real Cougar Woman offers virtual group therapy for women contemplating cougarness and includes ads for beauty magazines, cougar books, Zestra "essential arousal oils," and links to "sexperts," nutritionists, trainers, salons, and fashion boutiques. Ok I told you I wasn't interviewed. I wish I had been because I have a lot to say about women of all ages and its very different than anything I read in this article.
At long last, vibrators are taking center stage where they belong. Don't you remember when we had to sneak in and buy them in sex shops or discreetly online? Well those days are over.
Now you can find a select group of toys advertised on MTV or boldly displayed at Duane Reade, Walgreens and other mainstream drugstores.
Have you noticed that a women's sexual satisfaction is still a taboo subject? You don't see that discussion on TV, and it's rarely talked about even with best friends. So what's up with that? Why is Viagara, a drug that helps men with erectile dysfunction considered mainstream and seen everywhere while something that safely helps women's arousal still perceived as a no-no?
Those are the questions, both of my Real Cougar Woman 'sexperts' will be addressing when this blog relaunches bigger and better in September. I'm so excited about them coming aboard, I want to introduce them to you now. They are Rachel Braun Sherl and Mary Wallace Jaensch, the CEO and President, of Semprae Laboratories, Inc., a company by women and for women dedicated to the idea that all women deserve sexual satisfaction. Their flagship product is Zestra® Essential Arousal Oils™, a patented blend of botanical oils and extracts clinically proven to improve arousal, desire and satisfaction for 70% of women.
Both Rachel and Mary are tireless in their efforts to make women's sexual satisfaction a more mainstream conversation. It's so funny that when they talk to a mixed group about this subject, you see the men trip over themselves rushing to get the free samples. Yes, men love anything that will help their women have a more satisfying experience in the bedroom.
This is something you will love. Right now, Zestra is offering you the chance to win $1,000.00. They are having a contest that's called "You Feel That Way About Sex Too!!! Just click here for your chance to win. Oh, by the way there's a free gift just for entering, so check it out and don't miss out.
Cougars, here's a question for you. Is a successful and driven career woman more likely to have a higher sex drive than her lesser-achieving sisters?
Apparently they do. New research published this week showed that women with high levels of testosterone are more likely to be risk-takers – and have stronger sexual appetites.
If you are a woman working in a competitive environment, like banking or business, you may well become more assertive, competitive and aggressive, which will cause your testosterone levels to rise. But, the question becomes - did you go into banking because you had high testosterone levels, or did you develop high testosterone levels because you went into banking? The sexperts are still trying to figure that one out.
The root of our sexual desire is still pretty much a mystery. Does it start in our bodies or in our brains? A landmark research project by Dr Rosemary Basson from the University of British Columbia found that while men feel desire and so want to have sex, many women have sex as a way to kick-start desire.
Research into female sexuality is still controversial, contradictory and incomplete. The researchers may not agree with each other, but they do agree that understanding female desire may turn out to be as tough as understanding women.