Men’s sexual problems are more common than you think. You usually think of a man complaining that he’s not getting enough sex. But, now the sex-starved women, the wives, who are speaking out.
There is a difference in how in how both sexes approach the sex issue. When men aren’t getting sex they don’t think it’s has anything to do with them. When women are rejected in bed or any other place, they think it’s all about them. They look for reasons they are not keeping their man happy. Things like - I’m too boring, too fat, not pretty enough or too old. A woman always sees herself as the problem. Men don’t do that.
The truth is, if your man isn’t interested in sex, he’s not alone. After three decades of working as a couples therapist Michele Weiner Davis is convinced that low sexual desire in men is America’s best-kept secret.
Do you think you might be a sex-starved wife?
Are you longing for more touch, sex and physical closeness?
Have you been feeling hurt, depressed, resentful or angry about your partner’s lack of interest in sex?
Have your feelings of resentment about your sex life prompted you to shut down emotionally?
Out of anger, have you have you berated your partner or been mean-spirited?
Do you wonder whether he really loves you?
Do you question your attractiveness or femininity?
Do you feel yourself building a wall around you to protect yourself from feelings of rejection?
Have you grown increasingly exasperated that you haven’t been able to get your husband to understand what’s missing in your relationship?
Are you feeling tempted to stray beyond your marriage to find companionship and sexual excitement?
Have you been so desperate that you’ve even considered (or you are) having an affair?
Do you feel ashamed that your husband isn’t like other men?
If you’ve answered “yes” to several of these questions, it’s time to get help or at least read “Sex Starved Wives” by Ms. Davis. There is help and most often the woman who has to get the ball rolling.
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Over the years, as a parade of powerful male figures (mostly politicians),have been caught with women who were usually younger and always less powerful than they, the question has often been raised: Why don’t women gamble their political and personal futures like this? Is it because powerful women don’t cheat? Or is it just that they don’t get caught? Is it because the May-December equation sizzles only when he’s December? Or because there are not yet enough women out there yet with real clout?
At first blush, it almost feels appropriate to cheer. In this moment when the culture seems to be flirting with a change in the balance of power between the sexes. Yet any attempt to paint these similarities as a perverse sort of victory — women are every bit as unfaithful and hypocritical as men! — quickly runs up against the more important differences. There is much stricter standards, more rigid labels and stereotyped judgments we apply to women.
It is a familiar tendency, reducing women to archetypes with little room for gray. Harlot or heroine. Pushover or pushy. We take a binary view of most stories of sex and power, whether the woman is the villain or the victim.
We accept complexity in male leaders far more readily than we accept it in women — perhaps because we have fewer examples to draw from.
South Carolina's first lady Jenny Sanford was interviewed for the September issue of Vogue. She talks about her estranged husband's affair with his Argentine hottie and believes he has an addiction that got out of control.
Here are some classic quotes from Mrs. Sanford's interview:
"It never occurred to me that he would do something like that. The person I married was centered on a core of morals. The person who did this is not centered on those morals."
"I also feel sorry for the other woman. I am sure she is a fine person. It can't be fun for her, though I do sometimes question her judgment. If she knew the newspaper had those E-mails back in December, why did she want him to come in June? But I can't go there too much. All I can do is pray for her because she made some poor choices."
Mrs. Sanford also revealed that her marriage didn't pack much sizzle but they were good friends. As for the future, she has been living at the family's oceanfront cottage while hubby remains in the governor's mansion. She is open to getting back together with her The Gov, although admits that it would be difficult. "All I can do is forgive", she says. "Now I think it's up to my husband to do the soul-searching to see if he wants to stay married. The ball is in his court."
So, there you have it. Maybe now you will agree with me when I say that Jenny is smoking funny stuff. Her husband not only cheats on her but publicly announces his all-consuming love for another woman. How much humiliation does he want to inflict on this poor woman?
Jenny, I feel for you, but you've got it all wrong, The ball is not in his court – it's in yours. It's your decision whether or not to take him back and if you do then for heavens sake step up to the plate and tell him what you really think and what it will take to save this marriage. All this sugar-coated forgiveness is just covering up how outraged, how embarrased, how hurt you really are. Stop making excuses for this loser and demonstrate to your four sons and yourself what a strong, powerful woman you can be. Don't you think it's time for you to call the shots?