Greedy Wife Leaving Husbands With Nothing

by Linda Franklin

Divorce is an ugly business!  Nobody wins!  Wives are left hurt and looking for revenge and many husbands are forced to leave a house and children to live in a  furnished studio apartment.

Women seem to be  living by the principle of ‘don’t get mad, get everything’. And often, they go on getting everything for years, long after time has been called on their marriage.

In these days of equal education,  opportunities and access to professional careers, women are still expecting (and receiving) huge and continuing settlements when a marriage  ends.

I consider myself an advocate for women,  but I don’t see why today’s divorcing women should expect any kind of settlement at all.

If modern marriage is an equal  partnership, divorce should be the same, surely, with both parties getting out what they have put in, as when any other type of contract ends.

Yet modern women are still positioning  themselves as the weaker of the two sexes having to be kept by a big strong man, whether married or divorced. We have fought for equality, and many battles have been won, but divorcing women are still portraying pathetic little housewives unable to fend for themselves, before ruthlessly fleecing the men  they once professed to love.

Want to secure a juicy settlement?  Based on the Heather Mills principle, have a kid.   The presence of a child will ensure generous maintenance payments for years, maybe decades, to come.

It’s easy for an attractive woman to use her  charm and wiles to entrap a rich man, all the time calculating the cash they  receive when they can call time on the marriage. Why can’t they women give that kind of forethought into developing careers and financial independence rather than  sponging off someone else?

The bulk of women are married to ordinary earners and they too can be set up for years with the house, car, custody of children and a regular lump  sum in their accounts.

Some divorcees are reluctant to remarry, in case they kill the goose that lays the golden egg — maintenance usually stops when you have another husband to support you — so they are content with boyfriends and lovers.

When a wife has been brutally dumped, there might be greater grounds for sympathy. But these days, an estimated 70 per cent of  divorces are brought by women. What are these women being paid for, when no  longer married?

One woman, let’s call her Jane, was married for about 20  years when she decided she wanted a divorce. There were no particular  grounds, and no one else was involved. Both parties got a lawyer, and Jane was awarded 85 per cent of the joint assets. There were no children and she had never worked.

In 2013, women who demand everything and expect maintenance forever after, should hang their heads in shame.  We must prove to ourselves that we are not simpering victims, but proud, strong and, above all, financially independent females.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says, ”there’s no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

Hiding Money From Your Hubbie

by Linda Franklin

Money makes the world go around.  It also causes too-many-to-count problems in a marriage.  I have always recommended that women be financially independent by having their own bank accounts, file their own tax returns and try to keep as many assets as they can separate from their husband. But apparently that’s getting a lot harder to do.

This might sound way to radical when we were led to believe that marriage is based on love and trust. But, too many women, and some men too, have been left high when love flies out the window and all that’s left in a nasty divorce battle.  Anger and hurt can make us do things we never thought we could do.

On that cheery note I wanted to share an article that Veronica Dagher, a writer for The Wall Street Journal, wrote today.  She agrees that couples do hide money from each other, whether to spend it on extramarital mischief or keep from sharing it in a divorce. Her article warns hiders that electronic discovery is making it a lot easier to uncover all that covert activity.  This is important to know.

Divorce lawyers and forensic experts are employing new strategies of their own.  Instead of having to sift through reams of paper records to find irregularities they’re now able to used advanced search tools to analyze thousands of digital bank statements, credit-card bills and other files in the blink of an eye.  

Many spouses who think they’re being clever forget one simple fact: All of that electronic activity leaves traces. Experts say many people assume they have permanently deleted an email, Facebook post or other communication—when that’s often not the case.

“Realize that any time you have an electronic device on, information can be saved and it can be later tracked,” says Michael Arkfeld, a Phoenix-based educator in the field of electronic discovery.

To get an idea of just how widespread financial mischief is, consider a couple of surveys. According to the National Endowment for Financial Education, 31% of U.S. adults who combined assets with a spouse or partner say they have been deceptive about money, and 58% of these adults say they hid cash from their partner or spouse.

Love ain’t it grand?  Read the article so you protect yourself if the you-know-what hits the fan.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.