Hipness – What Sets You Apart?

Hipness - What Sets You Apart - Linda Franklin The Real Cougar WomanA new study from Harvard University has revealed that setting yourself apart from your peers is the answer to eternal hipness. 

I don’t know about you but I have always loved doing something that other people didn’t approve of.  

I was the first woman to live with my boyfriend.  I was the first Canadian woman to have a seat on The New York Stock Exchange. I always kept my finances separate – no co-mingling allowed. I didn’t have children and lived with my now husband, for over 20 years before we got married.  Today, I am a champion for other hip women – the rebels I call Real Cougars.  

Whether it comes to your taste in careers, men, or lifestyle, what you do is hip – as long as no one else is doing it at the same time.

The study which was published in Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, involved 200 college students who had their Facebook pages analyzed over a four-year period.

Kevin Lewis, lead study researcher and a PhD candidate in sociology at Harvard, added this. 

‘The meaning of an indie/alternative taste rests not just in the taste itself – but also in being the only one among one’s friendship circle that expresses it”.

Of course, this cat-and-mouse game of standing out from the crowd might leave you with some pretty esoteric tastes – and not a whole lot of friends.

But when you’re that cool, do you really care?

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

Cougar Relationships – Are they Just About Sex and Money?

by Dr. Fayr Barkley Ph.D.
 
Cougar Relationships Just About Sex and Money Fayr Barkley, The Real Cougar Woman So many of the women I talk to tell me they had unfulfilled sex lives when they were married. Child rearing, career, taking care of the home and hubby left them totally exhausted. Marrying young, without the experience of varied sexual partners, and not having fulfilling married sex, all contributed to them wanting more. 
 
They want what they feel they have missed out on, and many are finding this experience with a younger man.
 
It’s important to note, however, that 90% of these women are looking for a relationship, as opposed to a one night stand or a friend with benefits.
 
I don’t know?  Is the media to blame for how we view older women, younger men relationships?  Many of the younger men I talk to tell me they are not happy in how the media portrays them; horny, bumbling frat boys trying to lose their virginity. I know doctors, lawyers, engineers, MBAs and other professionals  who are seriously looking for a meaningful relationship with an older woman. 

Unfortunately, there are still men, whom I say are laboring under the Myth of Stiffler’s Mom, who think a Cougar is a desperate, leopard print wearing, wine guzzling, bar fly waiting to drag them home, provide endless sex and pay their bills. The fact is, there are far more younger men looking to meet older women than there are older women looking to meet younger men.  So, The Real Cougar Woman can afford to be very selective. If the man doesn’t bring his A game to the table he will be passed over. 

Women over 40 make up over 50% of the work force. They are controlling more and more of the disposable income in the United States and with financial freedom come more choices. Since they don’t need a man to support them financially, they are going after what appeals to them more: younger men who are fun, adoring, exciting, who are eager to please in and out of bed.  They are ditching the couch potatoes in favor of the younger and more active men.
 
Some relationships are for a reason, some last but a season and some last a lifetime. I believe there is a lid for every pot.
 

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

Katie Couric & Boyfriend Split – Another Cougar Relationships Bites The Dust

Katie Couric and boyfriend split Linda Franklin The Real Cougar Woman

Better Times

Katie Couric has split with her boyfriend of five years Brooks Perlin. Apparently, things have been rocky for a number of months and they both decided to call it quits. The couple had a 17 year age gap, so another famous cougar relationship bites the dust. 

Katie who lost her husband to colon cancer in l998 met the 37-year-old in 2006. Speaking later of their meeting she said: ‘I thought he was really cute. He asked me if I wanted to have dinner sometime and I liked that it was so direct and natural.

‘When he called, he asked me if I wanted to be in a sailing competition with him. I don’t sail. Then he asked me if I wanted to go surfing, and I’d never surfed. I said, “listen Mr Outward Bound, how about something normal?”.

The mother-of-two said it didn’t even cross her mind how old he was at the time. It was only later when she confided in friends that she was going on a date that they googled him.

She considered cancelling but was persuaded by friends not to and did not look back. 

In April, Couric gave a gushing interview to People magazine about her relationship, saying Brooks ‘challenges me in ways no one has ever challenged me before’ and that ‘they just clicked’.

But only a month later, she hinted at trouble with the green building-materials distributor, saying: ‘I am in the process of figuring out the future, and so is he. I am really happy in my personal life . . . but it is complicated.’ 

So, are all cougar relationships doomed to failure?  I don’t think so, but like any other relationships it requires constant attention and dedication.  

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality.  Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

Holiday Choices – Naughty or Nice?

by Linda Franklin

TChristmas Choice - Naughty or Nice Linda Franklin The Real Cougar Womanhis holiday season you get to choose whether you’ll be naughty or nice. Who knows, you just might find yourself in a fantasy circumstance that will be just too hard to resist.

According to a recent poll by Wet, a manufacturer of intimacy products, 29 percent of respondents admitted to have hooked up with a co-worker at their company’s holiday party.  Ho-Ho-Ho!!!

And, if the poll’s other statistics hold true, 57 percent of you won’t be able to resist the temptation to sneak away at a holiday gathering for a quickie. What’s more, 33 percent of us are more likely to have a one night stand on New Year’s Eve than any other night of the year.

So, what is it about the holidays that makes us so randy?

Blame all those candy canes. Sugar, converts into glucose,  raises your blood sugar level, and gives you an added sexy energy serge.  And, engaging in a romantic fling kicks up a woman’s oxytocin level, which alleviates the all-to-common holiday blues.

Just remember 2012 is just around the corner and you don’t want to carry any past regrets into the New Year.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,” there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system and a dream.  All things are possible”.  Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

Donatella Versace – A Female Misogynist?

By Babe Hope 

Donatella Versace - Female Mysogonist? by Babe Hope The Real Cougar WomanYou can run but you can’t hide. Some designers are cheating real women and don’t want us to know about it. For example, it would appear that Donatella Versace recently refused to allow ‘real women’ to model her new collection for H&M, reneging on a previous agreement to do so. 

What is Donatella afraid of? What would be the motive for such a cowardly, overtly disrespectful decision? Is she afraid that her designs will not look good on the women who would buy them? 

Her rhetoric has it that only professional models can convey the modern edge that the line requires to be shown at it’s best. Further, that branding is the impetus behind commercial success and that such a decision is made in the world of the merchandiser not the designer.  I’m not buying that and neither should you. (Yes, double-entendre intended!) 

My guess is that poor design, fabrication and construction is at the heart of the decision. If a garment only looks look while draped on a hanger (sorry, uber-thin/tall professional models,) it’s probably not for real women. If skin, muscle and curves destroy the ‘designer quality’ or silhouette of the item, why buy it? 

There are female designers such as Donna Karan who have embraced their own lovely reality and design with cut and fabric that celebrate softness, sensuality and femininity. Karan’s commercial success should be an inspiration to all female designers: look in the mirror and see what real women need and will buy. There lies the unstoppable synergy between merchandiser and designer and the formula for mega commercial success. That, I’m buying! 

Babe Hope is a stylist, blogger and model at Ullapopken.com. She is the author of Pretty Plus: How to Look Sexy, Sensational and Successful, No Matter What You Weigh, Her weekly column can be found at http://ullablog.blogspot.com/

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

Pretty Women Have Their Own Set Of Rules

Pretty Women Have Their Own Set Of Rules by Linda Franklin The Real Cougar Woman  

by Linda Franklin

It’s no shock that the portrayal of women in the media – young, sexy, skinny, tall – makes the rest of us feel flawed. When we look at the 40,000 or so ads that the average American is exposed to each year, it’s no wonder women are feeling inadequate. The average female model weighs up to 25% less than the typical woman and maintains a weight at about 15 to 20% below what is considered healthy for her age and height. It leaves us wondering how much importance is placed on pretty in this mixed up world we live in.

Well, as it turns out, pretty counts for a lot. As much as we want to believe we are not judged on how we look, that’s the very thing that opens so many doors for us. A pretty woman gets more opportunities and lots more help when she needs it. Just try getting any kind of assistance on a day when you are looking particularly frumpy – no makeup, stringy hair, sweatsuit and sneakers. If you don’t believe me get all dolled and see if you are treated any differently. The more attractive version of you will always win out – it’s just the way it is.

Actually, there are a whole set of different rules for the pretty woman. She can slip past velvet ropes, get preferential seating in restaurants, and even smile their way out of traffic tickets…and that’s just for starters.

People assume that if a woman is attractive, she possesses other positive traits, such as kindness and intelligence,” says behavioral psychologist Stephen Josephson, Ph.D., of Weill Cornell Medical College. So it’s not surprising that a study conducted by Daniel Hamermesh, Ph.D., and Jeff Biddle, Ph.D., economics professors at the University of Texas and Michigan State University, respectively, revealed that “plain” people earn 1 to 15 percent less than people with average looks, who in turn earn 1 to 13 percent less than those deemed good-looking.
Job recruiters have come to learn that sending out attractive women will get a much better reaction from their clients. Whether they admit it or not, many employers feel that having pretty female employees will reflect well on their firm. And, let’s face it, men want to be surrounded by pretty women.

So here’s the bottom line. You can choose to fight the obvious or perhaps it would be wiser to get a few well-placed highlights and dab on a little lip gloss. This will help create an aura not only of attractiveness but also of self-confidence. When you feel good about yourself, it changes the way you carry yourself. You can noticed.
“Occasionally being pretty can backfire”, says Stephen Josephson. “It’s the bimbo effect. “If a beautiful woman succeeds, she often finds herself fielding insinuations that her accomplishments are based solely on her looks.” And although a 2009 Journal of Applied Psychology report found that handsome people do have an edge over their less comely counterparts with regard to salaries, it turns out that intelligence trumps all.

So ladies, all is not lost – intelligence is still our most important asset. Nevertheless, I’m not ready to give up my highlights or lip gloss anytime soon.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

Sexual Dysfunction and Diabetes

By Dr. Jennifer Landa

Sexual Dysfuction and Diabetes by Dr. Jennifer Landa For The Real Cougar WomanSexual dysfunction in female diabetics has only received attention within the last decade.. Nearly 40 percent of diabetic women experience some type of sexual dysfunction affecting both their desire and performance.

Unlike a man with diabetes, sexual dysfunction in diabetic females is most commonly linked to body image, depression and anxiety. In some cases, it may be attributed to more serious complications of the disease such as vascular damage, neuropathy or infections. Diabetic women who have experienced, or are also experiencing menopause, may be dealing with a dual challenge when it comes to overcoming sexual dysfunction.

Mind over Mattress

Studies have observed that women affected by diabetes have a low self-esteem and poor body image in comparison to women not affected by diabetes. This may be linked to depression and anxiety – which affects 60 percent of diabetic patients – and can literally tank your libido. Women who must wear a pump or check their blood sugar before sex may become self-conscious, reducing the likelihood that they will initiate or engage in sex. Traditional stressors that affect any woman in the bedroom – such as weight management – pile onto the reasons diabetic women experience sexual dysfunction.

The root cause of female sexual dysfunction in these cases can often be addressed with lifestyle changes and a trusted partner. A balanced diet and routine exercise are proven methods for controlling weight and improving mood.  Don’t be afraid to talk openly with your doctor about your sexual distress – some cases may be more severe and require a change in medication or additional counseling.  Don’t forget that communicating with your sexual partner can be a very effective way to alleviate the fears hindering your sexual function.

The Prescription

The most effective way to avoid sexual dysfunction related to diabetes is to properly manage the disease. Making an effort to live a healthy lifestyle and carefully monitoring your blood glucose levels will decrease your risk of neuropathy, infections and circulatory issues. You will also be among the fortunate women affected by diabetes that enjoy higher energy levels and less anxiety because they practice good diabetes management. In some cases, bioidentical hormone replacement therapy may be useful – adequate amounts of progesterone, testosterone and growth hormone play a role in the delicate regulation of blood glucose levels.

Women who experience vaginal dryness as part of their diabetes-related sexual dysfunction may be dealing with a hormonal imbalance. Low estrogen levels can occur in diabetic women and is a likely culprit in women who are also experiencing menopause. Bioidentical hormone replacement therapy is a solution that may be explored to correct this issue. If the dryness is related exclusively to diabetes, over-the-counter lubrications are also an effective choice.

There are answers, so do your research and find a doctor you trust.  Together you will find ways to rekindle the sparks of passion.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

Real Cougar Women Forced To Dumb Down?

by Linda Franklin  

Real Cougar Woman Forced To Dumb Down? by Linda Franklin The real Cougar WomanReal Cougar Women – women who are smart, independent and successful know relationships between men and women are changing radically. And, they are finding it increasingly difficult to marry successful men to have an important relationship with.

Research is revealing that when a woman is successful she is having to ‘trade down’ when it comes to finding a partner.  Historically, women have looked for partners who were richer and better educated than themselves.  Now that’s changing.  

As women outperform men in earnings and promotion the traditional model of the relationship between men and women is being turned on its head.

Philadelphia-based Pew Research Centre study, published in The Atlantic magazine, suggests female graduates are being put in similar situation to that faced for some time by black women.  Apparently 70 per cent of black women have no husband and there are twice as many black women as black men with university degrees.

So, where does that leave smart, educated women these days?  Confused.  What can they do?  Instead of dumbing down to find a man, look for one who loves you for who you are.  Yes, he may not be as financially successful as you are, but if he has other great qualities, and is not threatened by your powerful ways, you just might make it together.  

 

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

 

Plastic Surgery Disaster – The Before Better Than The After

By Cynthia Rowland 

Plastic Surgery Disaster - The Before Better Than The After by Cynthia Rowland for The Real Cougar WomanWhat if you make the decision to have plastic surgery and the before looks better than the after?  That happens more times than you can imagine and it happened to Laura. Here’s what she said – “I wasn’t going to leave a suicide note. People would know why I’d killed myself. One look at my face said it all — I’d made myself look ­hideously ugly. My face was lopsided, my nose was too skinny, my lips were ­distorted and my chin was crooked”.

Laura is typical of many patients who are left profoundly depressed by their appearance ­after undergoing facial plastic surgery. 

Underlying psychological disorders may trigger the desire for change but doctors are hard pressed to know if  every man or woman who makes an appointment for a surgical procedure is ready to accept the results.

Disappointing results plague over 30% of facial plastic surgery patients and that may be the upshot of unrealistic expectations. If you elect to have a streamlined nose, enhanced bosom or a face lift, the end result just might be too much when you see your new self.

There is any easier way to go where you can lift and tone your face without surgery.  Facial exercise is a non-surgical alternative that has shown remarkable results throughout the years by millions of satisfied faces.

Lifting sagging facial features without incisions and sutures not only saves your facial features from possible disfigurement – we’ve all seen the over-inflated cheeks, the squinty eyes, the wind tunnel face – on celebrities and even our friends. Facial exercise will keep you looking like you – only younger.

Considering the current trend of men and women wanting natural results – the results of lifting and toning using facial exercise begins Day One. Just like exercise works wonders for slack and atrophied bodies, the very same principals are applied when using facial exercise to tighten sagging facial features. Resistance, contraction and isometric movements shape and contour droopy cheeks, hooded eyes, double chins and more. Those sagging and droopy facial features make you look older because the underlying muscles have lost their oomph. Once you begin contracting the muscles oxygenated blood is forced into the facial tissue so that skin and muscles reposition and this helps you look younger.

Back to Laura: Laura Pillarella, 41, wanted to “fix herself” and chose plastic surgery. Now after 15 unsatisfactory procedures she has written a book charting her excessive amounts of procedures, titled Chasing Beauty: My Cosmetic ­Surgery Takeover. Laura is not alone – there are others who have experienced great anguish when seeing their after surgery results. Patients frequently schedule revision surgeries only to feel less confident in their appearance after the second or third or tenth procedure. Are the doctors to blame for this dissatisfaction or the patient who cannot accept their God-given beauty?

Yes, some people are afflicted with Body Dysmorphic Disorder and most likely they will suffer the silent epidemic of disappointment no matter how many procedures they undergo. But anyone can change their thinking about their options and about the modalities they choose.

Using facial exercise is empowering. Your confidence will soar as you realize the control is in your hands. Turn back the hands of time naturally, self assured and positive that you can look 5, 10 even 15 years younger in just weeks.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

Beauty Bash This Weekend

Beauty Bash by Linda Franklin The Real Cougar Woman

Beauty Bash

by Linda Franklin – The Real Cougar Woman

Fab Over Fifty  will host Beauty Bash, a two-day event at the Metropolitan Pavilion in New York City on October 1-2, 2011.  I will be there and I hope to see you there too. All my very special cougar women get discounted tickets for this extravaganza.  All you do is use “cougar 40″ in the promo code when you register

FOF Beauty Bash is a hands-on, interactive, only-in-New-York-City-type event. It will bring together celebrity stylists; make-up artists; plastic surgeons; dermatologists; cosmetic dentists; beauty, fashion and fitness icons, as well as other specialists, for custom fittings, 1-on-1 consultations, live demonstrations and seminars on the latest beauty and wellness advances for FabOverFifty women. Attendees will sample the newest creams, colors, lotions, potions and serums; get insider tips, techniques and strategies designed especially for women over fifty. Which face cream really gets rid of wrinkles? Is my bra the right size for me? Should I get plastic surgery? How do I apply makeup to make me look younger? What can I do about my thinning hair?

Custom FOF Beauty Bash highlights include:

Mark Garrison, Celebrity Stylist –One of the world’s most sought-after hair stylists, Mark will be doing hair center stage for two days. He will solve your most difficult hair challenges, and provide complimentary cuts.

Le Mystere, Leader in Intimate Apparel – Get a custom and complimentary bra-fitting from the experts at Le Mystere, innovators in the intimate apparel space for their seamless, supportive and fashionable designs.

Jill Kirsh, Celebrity Makeup Artist – With just a few simple color tricks from Jill, you will look younger, more svelte, and radiant than ever. Meet one-on-one with Jill and watch her live color makeovers on the main stage.

Dr. Sharon Giese and Dr. Robert Gotkin, Cosmetic Surgeons –Meet privately in designated “doctor’s offices” at the FOF Beauty Bash with Dr. Sharon Giese or Dr. Robert Gotkin, two of New York’s most sought-after cosmetic surgeons, and ask them your biggest beauty questions. Dr. Giese’s “Natural Lift” is touted as “the future of plastic surgery” by Dr. Oz, and Dr. Gotkin was named “One of New York’s best doctors” by New York Magazine.

Elline Surianello, Master Hairapist – Elline will analyze your tresses so you can go from flat or frizzy to fantastic in less time than it takes to unplug the dryer. Walk away with Elline’s complimentary hairapy gift package.

Dr. Ellen Marmur, Dermatologist – In just minutes, Dr. Marmur could save your life with a complimentary body check. She’ll put your mind at ease about melanoma, and other forms of skin cancer that can be detected in the earliest stages. Dr. Marmur is associated with New York’s Mount Sinai Hospital and is one of the most respected doctors in the dermatological field. She has performed extensive research on the development of melanoma vaccines.

As an added bonus, attendees also will receive a gift bag filled with more than $150 worth of today’s hottest beauty products, as well as exclusive offers from partners, including Soft Surroundings, Molton Brown, Cynthia Rowland Beauty Systems, Perricone and many more.

To learn more, you can visit the Beauty Bash website at www.faboverfifty.com

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality.  Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.