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Secrets For Making Your Man Feed Wanted
Real Cougar Women are uber independent. There isn’t much we can’t figure out on our own, but at the same time, we know how to make the man in our life feel needed and wanted.
Here are 6 proven secrets for balancing your relationship and keeping your guy feel loved and appreciated.
1. Show him you’re partners. There’s a big difference between showing your man you need him (which he craves) and being needy (which terrifies him). A good partner wants to make you happy, to comfort you when you’re having a bad day, and to support you along your journey.
2. Ask his opinion. Guys love to feel that their opinion is valued (who doesn’t, really?) So if you’re angling for a promotion at work or wondering how to deal with a difficult boss, ask your guy for his thoughts. Keep in mind that men are a solution-oriented sex, so be prepared for him to suggest an action plan.
3. Let him make plans. Real Cougars want to do it all which isn’t the greatest way to show a man you care. Give him the chance to help you and to surprise you. Yes, he may not do things exactly the way you do, but that can be a good thing.
4. Ask him to help you with a “manly” task. Nothing boosts a man’s ego like doing something, well, manly. My husband revels in his ability to put together a piece of Ikea furniture that comes in 279 pieces. Again its about letting him know he’s needed and you that you really can’t do it ALL yourself.
5. Let him teach you about something he loves. Whether it’s olitics, football, investing, your guy is passionate about something you know nothing about. So ask him to tell you about it…then let him take you to a game, or plan a trip, or set a budget. He’ll be so appreciative that you took the time to learn about something that’s important to him, and the bonding experience will be priceless.
6. Thank him. When your guy shares some information that you find interesting, or cracks you up with a funny story, or helps you figure out a problem that’s been baffling you, be sure to thank him. Let him know that he’s the only one who can make you laugh that hard, and the person who understands you best. The warm, fuzzy, confident feeling he gets when he’s around you will keep him coming back for more, guaranteed!
Give these tips a try and watch how he makes a special effort to show you how much YOU are needed.
The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says, ”there’s no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.
Sex Fanatasties That Play In Real Life
by Linda Franklin
Most fantasies don’t make it successfully from your overly active imagination to real life. If you want to take your fantasies to the next level, try something that has the possibility of working to your pleasurable advantage.
Try these four.
Role-play: If you can stay in the moment and have a vivid imaginations role-playing fantasies is the best way to get the kick without the fallout. If you can kick the jitters, most couples love it once they get in character.
Tie-up games: Great way to shift the power back and forth. Blindfolds work too.
Spanking: Kept playful rather than painful, it’s ‘naughty’ enough to liven things up yet unlikely to go horribly wrong if you start off lightly and stop the second anyone feels uncomfortable (in a bad way).
Sex in public: Yes it’s illegal but if you’re sensible and discreet, assess each situation carefully and keep (most) of your clothes on, you’ll probably get away with it. It’s naughty without being too ‘out there’ and the threat of discovery adds excitement and edginess.
The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says, ”there’s no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.
Cougar Women Have Trouble Trusting
Trust is something we all want and deserve from a partner, but often our past experiences make that difficult to achieve.
Here’s an email I received from a woman who isn’t quite sure if her boyfriend is being totally honest about his intentions.
Dear Linda:
I have read your book “Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am” and I really enjoyed it. I was wondering if you could be so kind as to help me out and give me some of your wise words regarding a new relationship.
I recently met a man who is a police officer. (Nothing like a man in uniform and I’ve never dated one before.) He is 10 years younger, we’re both single and we both have special needs children. We have a lot in common.We have the same likes and he understands the Spiritual Path that I follow.
Here is my concern. I am a very curvaceous, full-figured woman with auburn hair and blue-green eyes. I don’t look my age of 49 – more like I’m in my 30′s. I take good care of myself and I am very confident. It’s just that on a previous occasion, quite a few years ago, another man in uniform told me he liked me, found me very attractive but wouldn’t date me because firefighters and police officers don’t date women like me. They date petite blondes, who are a size 6. They have to date hot women to keep an image, so to speak.
I know that all men are not the same. But I’m a little leery of getting involved with this police officer. I do not want to be out with him, run into some of his co-workers and end up being the butt of some joke. I have talked to him about it and he says he doesn’t care. But his previous girlfriend was, guess what? Petite blonde, size 6 with big breasts.
Your input would be greatly appreciated. Thanks so much.
Dear Unsure:
Don’t let your past experience influence the present. All men aren’t that shallow. Your guy said the age difference doesn’t bother him – but it sure is bothering you. STOP trying to read his mind – it’s impossible to do. Instead, enjoy each other, take one step at a time and silence that nagging voice in your head from ruling your life. Live for now and enjoy the moment. Fear can stop us from doing many things that are beneficial for our growth. Don’t let it rob you of your chance at happiness.
Linda
The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.
Younger Men Think Cougars Are Hot
Allure did another one of those fluffy surveys. This time it was to find out how men and women really feel about a woman’s changing looks, the effects of plastic surgery, and whether sex gets better with age. Allure polled 2,000 people nationwide.
Survey says:
- women believe their beauty peaks at 31 – but agree with men that 30 is the most seductive age for a woman.
- men are the most confident in bed between the ages of 50 and 69, while women experience their peak of sexual confidence between age 18 and 29.
-57% of the men and women polled agreed that sex gets better with age, only a third of male baby boomers said they were attracted to women their own age.
-36% of men between 18 and 29 say that ’cougars are hot’.
-women are more pressured to look young.
-grey hair makes a women look old, but on a man it’s considered distinguished…although 63% of men color their hair to look younger, compared to only 36% of women.
Overall, 70% of men and women say they take non-invasive anti-aging measures, and only 1% admit to getting cosmetic surgery, injections and/or laser treatments.
The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.
Impotence Becomes One Man’s Biggest Blessing
Prior to founding Heart Open LLC, Michael Russer was a highly successful international speaker, author and columnist. Then in September of 2011 he began a year-long personal transformation that included a diagnosis of prostate cancer, radical prostatectomy, followup intensive radiation treatments and full-blown impotence.
He considers impotence to be one of the biggest blessings in his life. It made it possible for him and his partner to discover an entirely new approach to experiencing levels of emotional and physical intimacy that far exceeded anything he felt before.
Michael was on our weekly radio show, Powered Up, last night talking in great deatail about his fabulous sex life and it’s a WOW!!!. I really urge you to listen to the podcast - it’s an eye-opener. He told us that he and his girlfriend have to schedule time for sex on their calendars because each session lasts between 2 and 4 hours. Yes, you read that right.
It is difficult for men who have had the radical surgery Michael did to achieve an erection, who can lead to all sorts of problems. Because of this loss, it’s difficult them to believe they still are still strong sexual beings capable of giving and receiving pleasure. Men are conditioned to believe that intercourse is the end all, be all of sexual activity, but, there are so many other delicious ways to connect. Women know this, men have to be taught.
The most important part of achieving satisfying sex is for the two people involved to have a strong emotional connection. Without great communication, the sex never even comes close to its full potential. Sex is not a chore, not a race to the finish, it’s a time when two people who care about each other delight in providing pleasure in a way that is loving and satisfying. There is no goal you have to achieve – it’s fun with no pressure.
It is Michael’s personal mission to serve other couples who struggle with emotional and physical intimacy due to Erectile Dysfunction/Impotence and use his vibrant communication skills and his personal experience to share what he has learned.
The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest
Middle Age Sexy Is The Best
It seems that scarcely a day passes without seeing a survey on some aspect of the middle-aged female experience. Maybe we should feel grateful, because according to one of the surveys I read, pollsters are the only people who find ladies of a certain age even slightly interesting.
This is a sad commentary, but unfortunately it’s true. Of 2,000 women who were surveyed, most agreed that 46 is the age that they become invisible to men.. 
The good news (according to this survey) is that by the time we get to 60 we start feeling better. That’s the good news???? How about the 14 years we are sitting crying in our beer? If we’re smart, and I know we are, we won’t let that happen. We will appreciate who we are, the woman we have grown into at any age we happen to be.
None of us can turn back the clock. In my middle 40′s, I believed I could. I was wrong. I had to figure out for myself, and we all do, how to hold onto your sexy and that fire in your belly.
Here’s a couple of tips I’ll pass on to you if you’re feeling blue because of our age:
- Play up your assets – now it’s time to do what feels good to you - it’s your turn
- Stop Listening to the naysayers who say life is over at 50
- Don’t hold on to relationships that no longer nurture your soul
- Change your look – go from just OK to sexy sophisticated
- Take a risk – get out of your head – say screw you to the fear - and watch what happens
We are powerful, fabulous females and even though we may have to play up different assets as we go through the decades, our confidence, our sexy, and appreciation of life will shine through. Your passion for life will be recognized.
I am convinced that middle-aged women of today are creating another template for aging and it’s not what the pollsters are telling us.
The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.
Hair Extensions – The Bloody Truth
Hair extensions can add fullness and length to otherwise sad-looking locks, but the health hazards that accompany the popular beauty aid can far out-way the rewards.
From blinding headaches, to patchy hair loss and sometimes permanent damage, doctors are now warning about the dangers of hair extensions, the must-have accessory of celebrities on the red carpet.
Neurologist, Dr. Orly Avitzur of Terrytown, N.Y., who is also the medical adviser for Consumer Reports, told ABC News: ‘If you start to get hair loss, then stop immediately. The risk of going bald is great”.’
Hair extensions, where synthetic or real hair is attached onto a person’s existing hair or scalp by weaving, gluing, sewing or clipping it on, first became popular with actresses, but the treatment has quickly moved on to the mainstream. Women everywhere are using them.
Permanent damage from hair extensions is known as Traction Alopecia. Apparently the weight and tension on the wearer’s hair follicles can cause permanent damage and prevent hair regrowth.
One 46-year-old New York social worker, who prefers not to be named, said she ran to the doctor with blinding headaches. After blood work and an MRI scan of the brain checked out as normal, there was no explanation for the sudden pounding in the patient’s head.
She was sent to Dr Avitzur, who explained: ‘When I went to examine her and simply touched her scalp, she pulled away and winced when my fingertips touched her quite gently.
‘She had hundreds of these tightly braided hair braids. It was pretty clear to me that she did not need a work-up, but that she needed to remove her extensions.
The procedure, costing anywhere from a couple of hundred dollars to several thousand, can be successful, however it is important to make sure the stylist attaches the extensions using a method that is tailored to your specific hair type.
If they’re attached too tightly, or weigh too much, problems can develop quickly.
Chicago cosmetologist Grace Santiler-Nowik, the president of the Professional Beauty Association’s Professional Council,explained: ‘It’s not something you tread into lightly. People want their hair thick and long, but they forget there’s a whole upkeep portion of it they have to maintain.’
Ms Santiler-Nowik emphasized that customers must return to the salon at regular intervals to have the extensions removed and replaced, and need to take a break from the hair pieces if they’re causing damage to a person’s hair.
‘I think it’s important for people to get education, there’s always a safe way to do things and a smart way to do things,’ she said.
Even Jennifer Aniston, who first gave the extensions a go as her character Rachel in Friend’s, is weary of the procedure.
She told Harper’s Bazaar: ‘I decided to have a couple of extensions, never knowing you would end up with 400 things in your head that cause your hair to break off. Nothing destroys your hair faster than extensions.’
The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says, ”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.
Aging Ain’t Easy – But It Can Be Fun
by Linda Franklin
Do you sometimes catch a glimpse of yourself as you walk by a store window and ask yourself – who is that woman? She looks familiar but you’re not quite sure who she is. Then reality takes a big bite out of your ego because that woman looking back at you is YOU.
Aging ain’t easy - it takes a lot of effort to do it successfully. But as I like to say, the juice is well worth the sqeeze.
As I get older, I find the disparity between how I feel on the inside and how I look on the outside grows ever greater. Gravity is definitely having its way with me and I don’t like it.
It’s scary heading for senior status in a society that places such a premium on youth. Women over 60 complain how they become invisible, — unless, of course, they happen to be Meryl Streep, Jane Fonda or Helen Mirren.
Each of us has to decide what’s right for us in everything we do and that includes aging. Do you succumb to or do you everything in your power to hold back the clock?
Unlike our mothers’ and grandmother’s generation, there’s no one way to present yourself as a 60-plus woman today. We have so many options in the way we dress, how we spend our leisure time, how we take care of our face and our bodies and last but certainly not least, how we keep our spiritual reservoir full.
The majority of women I know who are 60 and above are still working. Many of them because they choose to – many because they have to. With the economy the way it is, extending the earning years is a harsh reality and woman need to think about how much they will need to take care of their needs going forward.
It’s interesting too that the divorce rate of folks 60-plus has increased. Starting over no matter how old you are, is becoming increasingly common. Fifty and sixty somethings are busy exploring on-line dating, with many discovering finding a new love interest is no easy task.
The bottom line is you really are as young as you feel. It’s never too late for new fun adventures so go out, take a chance and embrace change because it’s going to happen whether you like it or not.
The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.
Ten Things Not To Say After Sex
From MUCH ADO ABOUT LOVING by Jack Murnighan and Maura Kelly. Reprinted by permission of Free Press, a division of Simon & Schuster, Inc.
Arm in arm, legs entwined, sweat beading on the marmoreal perfection of the human form, the dance of love just brought to its exquisite denouement, the Marlboro smoked, the snifter sipped dry, and now…
It’s a dangerous time to speak. Post-amour, everyone is vulnerable, the defenses have been laid bare, and any utterance can be taken to have more meaning than intended. How many times have I said some- thing I thought innocent—or even complimentary—only to have it heard by my beloved as something along the lines of “I wish you would turn into a pizza.”
To see how this plays out in literature, we need only turn to one of the saucier of all highbrow novels, Lady Chatterley’s Lover. There’s enough sex in Lawrence’s scandalous masterwork that I could find ten—yes, ten—things said after sex that you really wouldn’t want to say today. Some are said by men, some are said by women, but both sexes should avoid pretty much all of them.
So without further ado, and in the order in which they appear in the book, here they go:
1. Don’t complain about the timing of someone’s orgasm (or how they got there.
2. Never ask if your lover regrets the sex you just had.
3. Discussing your socioeconomic differences isn’t sexy—or practical.
4. Do not allude, however vaguely, to your past lovers or experience.
5. Do not mention love to your no-strings-attached lover.
6. Post-coitus, don’t ever ask if he or she loves you.
7. Never, under any circumstances, use the “c” word.
8. Tread with caution when talking about his penis.
9. Do not raise the issue of cohabitation out of the blue.
10. Watch what you say about your lover’s body.
The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says, ”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.
