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Cougar Women Have Trouble Trusting
Trust is something we all want and deserve from a partner, but often our past experiences make that difficult to achieve.
Here’s an email I received from a woman who isn’t quite sure if her boyfriend is being totally honest about his intentions.
Dear Linda:
I have read your book “Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am” and I really enjoyed it. I was wondering if you could be so kind as to help me out and give me some of your wise words regarding a new relationship.
I recently met a man who is a police officer. (Nothing like a man in uniform and I’ve never dated one before.) He is 10 years younger, we’re both single and we both have special needs children. We have a lot in common.We have the same likes and he understands the Spiritual Path that I follow.
Here is my concern. I am a very curvaceous, full-figured woman with auburn hair and blue-green eyes. I don’t look my age of 49 – more like I’m in my 30′s. I take good care of myself and I am very confident. It’s just that on a previous occasion, quite a few years ago, another man in uniform told me he liked me, found me very attractive but wouldn’t date me because firefighters and police officers don’t date women like me. They date petite blondes, who are a size 6. They have to date hot women to keep an image, so to speak.
I know that all men are not the same. But I’m a little leery of getting involved with this police officer. I do not want to be out with him, run into some of his co-workers and end up being the butt of some joke. I have talked to him about it and he says he doesn’t care. But his previous girlfriend was, guess what? Petite blonde, size 6 with big breasts.
Your input would be greatly appreciated. Thanks so much.
Dear Unsure:
Don’t let your past experience influence the present. All men aren’t that shallow. Your guy said the age difference doesn’t bother him – but it sure is bothering you. STOP trying to read his mind – it’s impossible to do. Instead, enjoy each other, take one step at a time and silence that nagging voice in your head from ruling your life. Live for now and enjoy the moment. Fear can stop us from doing many things that are beneficial for our growth. Don’t let it rob you of your chance at happiness.
Linda
The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.
Susan Sarandon Loving Her Cougar Relationship
Susan Sarandon, recently spoke out about her new love interest on The View. She said “I don’t go by age. I go by the soul of a person”. Her paramour is Jonathan Bricklin, who is more than thirty years her junior. “I think that when you really love a person, the age thing, the gender, the color, none of that matters. It’s really beyond that.”
“In the past women had to partner up with a man who could support her. Now women are quite financially independent, so we partner up with someone because – radical thought – we like him.” Amen to that Susan.
Susan is an outspoken, successful, sexy, passionate woman so attracting a younger man wouldn’t be much of a challenge. Her views might be a tad idealistic. The women in my Real Cougar community tell me, the relationship between older women and younger men is still frowned upon. They are challenged and sometimes feel very guilty for their choices. In this double-standard world, what’s good for the man isn’t always accepted when a woman follows the same behavior.
I do have to admit however, that often women are their own worst enemies. Even though they might have a wonderful younger man who adores them, they don’t stop to appreciate the today benefits. Instead, their heads are spinning about each and every future what-if. What if he finds a younger woman, what if he really wants to have kids, what if I get sick and he won’t take care of me, what if he is just her for my money, what if our interests grow too far apart. I wonder if Susan bolts up in bed at night with just a few of those what-ifs?
Of course plenty of older women have beautiful relationships with younger men, but overall the attitude is ‘why is this woman falling for this young dude who is destined to leave her?’”
Flying too close and getting burned by a youthful flame is a risk run by older partners of either sex.
But, with people living and looking good for longer, age difference can be harder for others to tell anyway. Perhaps it’s becoming a moot point.
We used to live in such little boxes and I like to think we’re becoming so much more accepting of people being together just because they want to be together… any relationship with significant non-normative factors – cross-cultural, significant age gaps or certain types of employment that make it long-distance – come with challenges, but you go into it with an open mind.
The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.
Sexy Body – Does Mine Still Qualify?
One of the crazy excuses that stops a woman from enjoying sex is believing her body isn’t sexy anymore.
Doesn’t it make sense that if you’re more concerned about how you look than enjoying the pleasures of the flesh – you’re not going to enjoy it?
It’s impossible to enjoy sex If you’re not present in the moment. If you’re busy doing a body check, instead of focusing on the kiss or the touch, you are shortchanging yourself and your partner.
It’s hard to convince a woman that a man sees her body differently than she does. They’re not nearly as concerned with the flaws as you are. What turns on a man is your passion, your imagination, your enjoyment. He doesn’t care about that extra weight you might have put on or that your breasts aren’t quite as firm as they used to be.
Sex is one of the greatest pleasure in life, so why would you choose to give it up because you imagine your body isn’t sexy. Just relax. Relish in the pleasure that your body can provide and stop worrying how your butt looks from every possible angle.
The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.
Katie Couric & Boyfriend Split – Another Cougar Relationships Bites The Dust
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Katie Couric has split with her boyfriend of five years Brooks Perlin. Apparently, things have been rocky for a number of months and they both decided to call it quits. The couple had a 17 year age gap, so another famous cougar relationship bites the dust.
Katie who lost her husband to colon cancer in l998 met the 37-year-old in 2006. Speaking later of their meeting she said: ‘I thought he was really cute. He asked me if I wanted to have dinner sometime and I liked that it was so direct and natural.
‘When he called, he asked me if I wanted to be in a sailing competition with him. I don’t sail. Then he asked me if I wanted to go surfing, and I’d never surfed. I said, “listen Mr Outward Bound, how about something normal?”.
The mother-of-two said it didn’t even cross her mind how old he was at the time. It was only later when she confided in friends that she was going on a date that they googled him.
She considered cancelling but was persuaded by friends not to and did not look back.
In April, Couric gave a gushing interview to People magazine about her relationship, saying Brooks ‘challenges me in ways no one has ever challenged me before’ and that ‘they just clicked’.
But only a month later, she hinted at trouble with the green building-materials distributor, saying: ‘I am in the process of figuring out the future, and so is he. I am really happy in my personal life . . . but it is complicated.’
So, are all cougar relationships doomed to failure? I don’t think so, but like any other relationships it requires constant attention and dedication.
The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.
Cougar Woman Admits Younger Men Are Exhausting
I read an article about relationships that have a large age gap and wanted to share it with you. To get the full scoop click here. With all the spin around Ashton and Demi’s divorce, many women are wondering if an older woman can find happiness with a younger man. You decide for yourself.
Helen Backhouse, 56, an artist, is married to computer programmer Pierre Burghgraeve, 40. Helen thinks the 17 years between her and husband Pierre have become more apparent as they have got older. She says, “I enjoy reading, gardening and sitting peacefully, while Pierre is much more active. And our tastes are very different, too. I love music from the Seventies that he hates, and he listens to rap, which I can’t stand”.
“I like to tell everyone he keeps me young, but it can be exhausting being with a younger man”. And living with him and my son is sometimes like living with two squabbling teenage boys”.
There’s no doubt that being with a younger man raises eyebrows.
When we first got together, my friends were horrified. They worried he would eventually fall in love with a woman his own age and I would get hurt. Pierre reassures me this will never happen. Yet there are times when I have questioned what on earth I am doing.
I married my first husband, when I was 26 — he was the same age. The marriage ended after ten years without us having children.
When I was 38, I decided I wanted to be a mother and a male friend agreed to be the donor father. I brought Thomas up on my own, until I met Pierre.
We met when Pierre when he became the chef at a restaurant near my home in 2004. When it comes to the physical side of our relationship, the thing that flashes through my mind is, ‘I’d better have the lights off’ — but Pierre has always made me feel desirable.
Sometimes I do worry about the fact that when he’s 65, I’ll be in my 80s. But I joke that after I’ve gone, he can find a woman his own age and have a whole new life.’
PIERRE SAYS: To me, age is irrelevant. When I met Helen, I didn’t think: ‘How old is she?’ I simply thought what an attractive, interesting woman she was. She has a wonderful career and is her own woman. I like the fact she’s seen more of life than me.
People may look at us oddly sometimes, but I no longer notice. Besides, I am not frozen in time — I am ageing, too. As I get older, I feel the age gap between us narrows. I don’t think too much about the future — I am just glad we are happy now.’
The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.
Female Orgasm – Many Paths To Pleasure
by Linda Franklin
Women definitely have the advantage over men when it comes to sexuality because we can experience not only multiple orgasms, but can even reach orgasm through different stimulation in different areas. There are women who can reach orgasm having their breasts and nipples stimulated, some from certain areas on their thighs or knees, some from their elbows, their hips and buttocks, and still others from their back, neck, or scalp. As you can see, when it comes to a woman’s orgasm, there can be a very wide range of possibilities.
Most commonly, however, women reach orgasm through stimulation of the clitoris. Again, there are choices. Stimulation can range anywhere from a tongue during oral sex, to fingers in foreplay or masturbation, a vibrator, or a steady stream of water. So many paths to pleasure.
There are many women who can reach orgasm by clitoral stimulation, but don’t think they are normal because they can’t have an orgasm with penetration. Those women too often feel there is something wrong with them because, unless they can find a position where they can rub their clitoris against their partner’s body, they can’t reach orgasm. And there are plenty of men too, it seems, that want to know what is wrong. Why isn’t there partner having an orgasm when they have intercourse? Is there something wrong with her? Is there something he is doing wrong, or something different he needs to do? The reality is, there is nothing wrong and she is probably perfectly normal.
Only about 30% of women can reach orgasm with intercourse or penetration alone. When these women are reaching orgasm from penetration, it is usually due to rhythmic stimulation of their cervix, found at the top of the vagina. Many women describe this orgasm as happening “on the inside,” as opposed to the orgasm they get from stimulating the clitoris, which they feel more “on the outside.” So that leaves approximately 70% of women that cannot have orgasm with simple intercourse or penetration. These women are the norm, not the other way around. I repeat, only having orgasms from stimulation of the clitoris is normal and is the most common scenario.
Orgasm should never be a mission and sex should focus most on pleasure and closeness. With that said, it is not unreasonable to suggest that a woman receive plenty of oral or manual stimulation before, during, or after intercourse so that she has maximal opportunity to have an orgasm (or two or three).
The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.
Ashton & Demi Splitting? Say It Isn’t So
by Linda Franklin – The Real Cougar Woman
Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore are, or should I say were, the model Cougar couple. Now rumors are flying about Ashton’s fling with another woman on his sixth anniversary. How tacky is that?
Neither one, both prolific Tweeters, have sent out any comment about the rumor to their combined 12 million followers.
As you might imagine, I’m rooting for Ashton and Demi. And, yes, it’s because of their 16-year age difference. I still don’t understand why it’s okay for older men to be with younger woman but not the other way around?
Are cougar relationships tough? Of course they are, but you tell me what relationship isn’t. Just read yesterday’s blog posting – Marriage – The Ultimate Endurance Test. Maturity plays a big part if making it work. We know it’s not all about passion and fun.
Let’s face it, cheating isn’t confined to “cougar relationships.” Nor are those relationships doomed to fail. I talk to hundreds of Real Cougars who are with men 16 years younger and are happy as clams.
The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.
Cougar Women Come In Many Different Varieties
I was watching an online video of a recent Cougar convention in Northern California. The attendees, younger men and older women were being interviewed as they danced the night away. The women were unified about why
they sought out younger men. There was no new news about that. Then, one Cougar said, "And the young men don't have to worry about putting a ring on it."Excuse me? I hope she was only speaking for herself and not making a blanket statement about what ALL Cougar women want.
Dame Judi Dench Is A Fine Example Of A Real Cougar
Judy Dench lost her husband ten years ago, but now she looks happier than ever. Here she is strolling arm-in-arm with conservationist David Mills 8 years her junior. He is 68.
It's never too late to find true love. We deserve happiness no matter how old we happen to be. Age doesn't matter – it's all about the connection that two people have togehter.
I am glad that this fine example of seasoned womanhood is able to share her life with a new love.
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The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,"there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible". Linda's book, Don't Ever Call Me Ma'am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.
