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Secrets For Making Your Man Feed Wanted
Real Cougar Women are uber independent. There isn’t much we can’t figure out on our own, but at the same time, we know how to make the man in our life feel needed and wanted.
Here are 6 proven secrets for balancing your relationship and keeping your guy feel loved and appreciated.
1. Show him you’re partners. There’s a big difference between showing your man you need him (which he craves) and being needy (which terrifies him). A good partner wants to make you happy, to comfort you when you’re having a bad day, and to support you along your journey.
2. Ask his opinion. Guys love to feel that their opinion is valued (who doesn’t, really?) So if you’re angling for a promotion at work or wondering how to deal with a difficult boss, ask your guy for his thoughts. Keep in mind that men are a solution-oriented sex, so be prepared for him to suggest an action plan.
3. Let him make plans. Real Cougars want to do it all which isn’t the greatest way to show a man you care. Give him the chance to help you and to surprise you. Yes, he may not do things exactly the way you do, but that can be a good thing.
4. Ask him to help you with a “manly” task. Nothing boosts a man’s ego like doing something, well, manly. My husband revels in his ability to put together a piece of Ikea furniture that comes in 279 pieces. Again its about letting him know he’s needed and you that you really can’t do it ALL yourself.
5. Let him teach you about something he loves. Whether it’s olitics, football, investing, your guy is passionate about something you know nothing about. So ask him to tell you about it…then let him take you to a game, or plan a trip, or set a budget. He’ll be so appreciative that you took the time to learn about something that’s important to him, and the bonding experience will be priceless.
6. Thank him. When your guy shares some information that you find interesting, or cracks you up with a funny story, or helps you figure out a problem that’s been baffling you, be sure to thank him. Let him know that he’s the only one who can make you laugh that hard, and the person who understands you best. The warm, fuzzy, confident feeling he gets when he’s around you will keep him coming back for more, guaranteed!
Give these tips a try and watch how he makes a special effort to show you how much YOU are needed.
The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says, ”there’s no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.
Greedy Wife Leaving Husbands With Nothing
Divorce is an ugly business! Nobody wins! Wives are left hurt and looking for revenge and many husbands are forced to leave a house and children to live in a furnished studio apartment.Women seem to be living by the principle of ‘don’t get mad, get everything’. And often, they go on getting everything for years, long after time has been called on their marriage.
In these days of equal education, opportunities and access to professional careers, women are still expecting (and receiving) huge and continuing settlements when a marriage ends.
I consider myself an advocate for women, but I don’t see why today’s divorcing women should expect any kind of settlement at all.
If modern marriage is an equal partnership, divorce should be the same, surely, with both parties getting out what they have put in, as when any other type of contract ends.
Yet modern women are still positioning themselves as the weaker of the two sexes having to be kept by a big strong man, whether married or divorced. We have fought for equality, and many battles have been won, but divorcing women are still portraying pathetic little housewives unable to fend for themselves, before ruthlessly fleecing the men they once professed to love.
Want to secure a juicy settlement? Based on the Heather Mills principle, have a kid. The presence of a child will ensure generous maintenance payments for years, maybe decades, to come.
It’s easy for an attractive woman to use her charm and wiles to entrap a rich man, all the time calculating the cash they receive when they can call time on the marriage. Why can’t they women give that kind of forethought into developing careers and financial independence rather than sponging off someone else?
The bulk of women are married to ordinary earners and they too can be set up for years with the house, car, custody of children and a regular lump sum in their accounts.
Some divorcees are reluctant to remarry, in case they kill the goose that lays the golden egg — maintenance usually stops when you have another husband to support you — so they are content with boyfriends and lovers.
When a wife has been brutally dumped, there might be greater grounds for sympathy. But these days, an estimated 70 per cent of divorces are brought by women. What are these women being paid for, when no longer married?
One woman, let’s call her Jane, was married for about 20 years when she decided she wanted a divorce. There were no particular grounds, and no one else was involved. Both parties got a lawyer, and Jane was awarded 85 per cent of the joint assets. There were no children and she had never worked.
In 2013, women who demand everything and expect maintenance forever after, should hang their heads in shame. We must prove to ourselves that we are not simpering victims, but proud, strong and, above all, financially independent females.
The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says, ”there’s no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.
Can Affairs Can Save Your Marriage?
by Linda Franklin
Can an affair actually help save a troubled marriage? Believe it or not many women say it can.
1 in 3 reported that infidelity helped boost their marital sex life.
Of those who do have affairs, 73 per cent said that they are doing it because they feel neglected by their spouse or partner.
Among the women who said that neglect was the reason for their infidelity, many also cited not having their emotional needs met – a factor that played a significant role in their decision to find someone else. This doesn’t come as a shock. Feeling under appreciated, neglected and taken for granted is a common war cry amongst women.
‘The reality is that many people can’t leave their partners for financial reasons and women in particular are usually reluctant to sacrifice their family life.
‘So they are taking care of their needs outside marriage. They’re stepping into the male arena when it comes to infidelity.’
Relationship expert, Tracey Cox, comments: ‘Sometimes an affair can be a wake up call for a marriage and jolt one or both partners into realizing just how important they are to each other and how devastating it would be to lose them.’
But, in general, betrayal isn’t an easy pill to swallow by either partner. Once the bond of trust is broken it’s very hard to knit it back together.
The way to solve problems in a relationship is to talk about them and confront them before there’s the temptation to play away.
Everyone wants to be desired. If a married couple agree they both want to have sex elsewhere, it’s their decision. But when one person in a marriage wants to sleep with someone else but the other doesn’t, it will cause great pain.
The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says, ”there’s no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.
Turning On Before Your Partner Arrives
If you are a woman who is concerned that your sex drive is stuck in low gear you are not alone. Here’s what sex guru Betty Dodson has to say on that subject.
“I don’t put much faith in women’s “sex drive” as it were. For me and many other women, when we stimulate our clitoris for a while, then we become interested in sex with our partners. And after a couple or more minutes, we are “turned on” and then if our lover can keep a steady beat, many of us can orgasm after 20 or more minutes. I personally need up to 45 minutes to an hour as a senior woman. Unfortunately we are using the male model of sexual response and applying that to women but it rarely works. It’s easy enough to get your hormone levels checked out.”
That’s direct and to the point isn’t it?
The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says, ”there’s no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.
Dove Proves Women Are Prettier Than We Think We Are
Do other people see you differently than you see yourself, especially in the looks department? A new Dove campaign “Real Beauty Sketches”, says yes – and offers proof, in the form of forensic sketches.
Dove recruited seven women of different ages and backgrounds and had FBI-trained forensic artist Gil Zamora create composite sketches of them based on descriptions of their own facial features. In this video, produced for the campaign, you can hear the women use phrases like “my mom told me I had a big jaw,” “I kind of have a fat, rounder face,” “I’d say I have a pretty big forehead.”
The women had been asked to spend time with strangers, though neither party was told why. These strangers were later brought one by one into a room with Zamora and asked to describe the women who had been sketched earlier. The two resulting drawings of each woman were then hung side-by-side — and the contrast is pretty stark. The tagline of the campaign is: “You are more beautiful than you think.”
And it’s women’s existing shame that the Dove campaign does a good job of exposing through its sketches.
The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says, ”there’s no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.
Relationships That Work Aren’t Power Plays
by Linda Franklin
Do we really need relationship geniuses telling us what makes love last? Most of the time it comes down to common sense, but I will admit, lots of us lack that quality when it comes to our personal relationships. Too often it becomes a power play, a tug of war of who’s right and who’s wrong.
If you put a relationship in a win/lose situation, it will be you who loses. The question is: Is what you’re doing working or not working?
The quality of a relationship is a function of the extent to which it is built. Is there a solid underlying friendship that meets the needs of the two people involved?
There is no right or wrong way to fix a relationship. Find your own way – the one that works. But recognize when it’s not working and be honest when it needs fixing.
Falling in love is not the same thing as being in love. Embrace the change and know that it takes work.
You don’t fix things by fixing your partner. You don’t necessarily solve problems. You learn how to manage them.
Communicate. Make sure your sentences have verbs. Remember that only 7 percent of communication is verbal. Actions and non-verbal communication speak much louder.
The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says, ”there’s no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.
Sex Fanatasties That Play In Real Life
by Linda Franklin
Most fantasies don’t make it successfully from your overly active imagination to real life. If you want to take your fantasies to the next level, try something that has the possibility of working to your pleasurable advantage.
Try these four.
Role-play: If you can stay in the moment and have a vivid imaginations role-playing fantasies is the best way to get the kick without the fallout. If you can kick the jitters, most couples love it once they get in character.
Tie-up games: Great way to shift the power back and forth. Blindfolds work too.
Spanking: Kept playful rather than painful, it’s ‘naughty’ enough to liven things up yet unlikely to go horribly wrong if you start off lightly and stop the second anyone feels uncomfortable (in a bad way).
Sex in public: Yes it’s illegal but if you’re sensible and discreet, assess each situation carefully and keep (most) of your clothes on, you’ll probably get away with it. It’s naughty without being too ‘out there’ and the threat of discovery adds excitement and edginess.
The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says, ”there’s no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.
Opening Up About What You Need Sexually
Women know what they need to be sexually fulfilled but they are not good about communicating that information to their man.
If you were totally honest about what turns you on, what would you be sharing with your partner?
Here’s what some woman have said:
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‘It takes me longer to orgasm than you – don’t rush me’
In order to feel like sex, I need to be emotionally turned on, as well as physically stimulated.
- Words are aphrodisiacs to me. If you want more sex, talk to me more.
- The more housework you do, the more I will feel like sex. I’ll be less tired and will feel more like an equal partner than a slave.
- I also want to initiate sex but I don’t have time to work up an appetite if you make a move on me daily.
- It takes me longer to orgasm than you and it’s more difficult. Don’t rush me.
- Be gentler. My skin is thinner and more sensitive than yours. What feels normal to you, often hurts me.
- Don’t assume I only want romantic sex. I’m also up for wilder, lustier sex now and then.
- Don’t hassle me for sex after I’ve said no. It makes me feel unsexy, rather than turned on.
- Accept that I’m probably not going to orgasm purely through intercourse. I need clitoral stimulation.. This doesn’t mean I don’t enjoy intercourse, it’s just the way my body is designed.
If you’re not getting what you need to be sexually satisfied – try asking for it. Any man worth his salt will appreciate your input.
The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.
Intimacy Begins With Your Ability To Be Alone
While the definition of intimacy may vary depending on the relationship, it is generally felt to be the “ authentic” connection between two people. As such, the connection reflects a mutuality of loving feelings shared and expressed in thought, affect and behavior.
Less discussed and perhaps surprising, is the importance of the “capacity to be alone” in establishing true intimacy.
What Is The “Capacity To Be Alone?”
- Originally coined by the British pediatrician/psychoanalyst, Donald Winnicott, the “capacity to be alone” refers to the development of individuality that starts with the infant’s ability to be alone in the presence of the mother.
- It is the child’s ability to move from the sense of the mother’s compassionate, comforting and loving presence, to his/her ability to hold on to her presence, even when alone.
- This internalized sense of the comforting mother develops into the psychological capacity to regulate anxiety, self-soothe, and experience a true authentic self. In essence, this is the capacity to be alone.
Why Is This an Asset To Intimacy?
- True intimacy starts with a comfort in your own sense of self. If you like yourself and feel comfortable, you will be able to relate in a real and genuine way with another person.
You won’t have to be what someone else wants or needs you to be.
- True intimacy is possible when you have the “capacity to be alone” because it implies choice. You may want to be with someone. You don’t have to be with someone because you fear that being alone leaves you without stability or value.
You don’t have to cling to someone to avoid abandonment or avoid someone for fear of rejection.
- True intimacy is possible when there is psychological separation or room for partners to come and go from each other physically and psychologically.
- Couples often report that when they are apart from each other during the course of the day, they think more positively and romantically about each other than at any other time.
Neurochemistry supports this idea with findings that separation actually revs up dopamine and epinephrine, the hormones associated with sexual desire.
Do You Have The Capacity To Be Alone? Does Your Partner?
Most self-growth starts with self-reflection that leads to self-awareness.
The following list is a translation of the “capacity to be alone” into thoughts, feelings and behaviors that occur in the day-to-day lives of partners. They may be with considering.
If you have the “capacity to be alone”….
- You can have an intimate relationship with a partner without feeling you have jeopardized your parents’ love.
- You can tolerate your partner’s relationship with his/her family.
- You value your independence but you are not threatened by the reality that you and your partner also depend on each other.
- You enjoy spending time with your partner and others; but you also value your solitude.
- You are not jealous if your partner enjoys time with his/her friends.
- You can tolerate your partner’s having a difference of opinion from yours.
- You can agree to follow your partner’s opinion without fear of being controlled.
- You can negotiate a mutual solution in a way that balances needs and dreams.
- You are able to recognize that as separate people you and your partner may be preoccupied with things that have nothing to do with the other—and need not be taken personally.
- Given that you are individuals as well as partners, you don’t hold the other responsible for knowing what you need without communicating it in some way.
- Given that you are partners as well as individuals, you take pride in knowing your partner in ways that others don’t—without presuming to know all.
- You can hold on to the connection with your partner even if you are not physically together.
- You can make a sexual overture without fearing rejection.
- You don’t need you or your partner to be perfect in order to have a sense of self-worth.
- You can say “ No” to your partner without fear of reprisal or rejection.
- You don’t need the world to love your partner—because you love your partner.
- You can risk being angry with your partner.
- You can recover from a fight or argument with your partner without “ winning” or “ blaming.”
- You can own your part in a problem or your mistake without a blow to your self-esteem.
- You can tolerate the temporary disconnect that comes from arguing with your partner without fearing that the relationship will be over or the love will be lost.
- You can apologize.
- You can forgive.
- You feel a personal sense of worth although you greatly treasure your partner’s affirmation.
- You are not afraid that asking for or receiving your partner’s help will compromise your self-esteem.
- You feel pride and confidence in face of your partner’s plans to achieve personal goals without fear of being overlooked or left behind.
- You don’t need your partner to want to do whatever you are doing, whenever you are doing it.
- You can comfortably enjoy the benefits and balance of the You-We-Me in your relationship.
- You never believe that a partner who is out of sight is out of love with you.
The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.
