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Secrets For Making Your Man Feed Wanted
Real Cougar Women are uber independent. There isn’t much we can’t figure out on our own, but at the same time, we know how to make the man in our life feel needed and wanted.
Here are 6 proven secrets for balancing your relationship and keeping your guy feel loved and appreciated.
1. Show him you’re partners. There’s a big difference between showing your man you need him (which he craves) and being needy (which terrifies him). A good partner wants to make you happy, to comfort you when you’re having a bad day, and to support you along your journey.
2. Ask his opinion. Guys love to feel that their opinion is valued (who doesn’t, really?) So if you’re angling for a promotion at work or wondering how to deal with a difficult boss, ask your guy for his thoughts. Keep in mind that men are a solution-oriented sex, so be prepared for him to suggest an action plan.
3. Let him make plans. Real Cougars want to do it all which isn’t the greatest way to show a man you care. Give him the chance to help you and to surprise you. Yes, he may not do things exactly the way you do, but that can be a good thing.
4. Ask him to help you with a “manly” task. Nothing boosts a man’s ego like doing something, well, manly. My husband revels in his ability to put together a piece of Ikea furniture that comes in 279 pieces. Again its about letting him know he’s needed and you that you really can’t do it ALL yourself.
5. Let him teach you about something he loves. Whether it’s olitics, football, investing, your guy is passionate about something you know nothing about. So ask him to tell you about it…then let him take you to a game, or plan a trip, or set a budget. He’ll be so appreciative that you took the time to learn about something that’s important to him, and the bonding experience will be priceless.
6. Thank him. When your guy shares some information that you find interesting, or cracks you up with a funny story, or helps you figure out a problem that’s been baffling you, be sure to thank him. Let him know that he’s the only one who can make you laugh that hard, and the person who understands you best. The warm, fuzzy, confident feeling he gets when he’s around you will keep him coming back for more, guaranteed!
Give these tips a try and watch how he makes a special effort to show you how much YOU are needed.
The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says, ”there’s no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.
Undereye Bags Gone In 10 Minutes
by Linda Franklin
Sometimes you just get fed up with people telling you how tired you look. It’s those dark circles and under eye bags that make you look like you haven’t slept in weeks. Concealer can help but too often it just accentuates what you are trying to hide.
Now there is a more permanent solution to heavy under eye bags.
Promising to soften dark circles in just ten minutes, cosmetic surgeons are injecting filler into the eye bags for the new treatment that lasts two to four years.
Dr Alexander Rivkin, a Los Angeles based-facial cosmetic surgeon, said of the in-office procedure which does not require anesthesia: ‘It really is the fountain of youth for the eyes.’
Tear-trough fillers: Promising to soften dark circles in just ten minutes, cosmetic surgeons are injecting filler into the eye bags for the new treatment that lasts two to four years.
The dermatologist-offered procedure called tear-trough fillers, where hyaluronic acid such as Restylane or Juvéderm is injected to make the eyes appear better rested, costs from $600 to $1,000.
However injecting the eye area is not without risks. If the filler blocks a retinal artery, it can cause blindness, but that’s rare. The usual side effects of the tear-trough treatment range from puffy eyes to possible bruising, which usually subsides within one week.
Melissa Beretich told Good Morning America: ‘What I’m hoping to come out with is to be able to go back to what I was doing four to five years ago, and not wear makeup. The ten minute procedure with New York City-based plastic surgeon, Dr Steven Pearlman, Ms Beretich said she ‘absolutely’ saw a difference in her eyes and felt no pain at all.
Dr Pearlman explained: ‘What this treatment is doing is camouflaging the bags. For people who only have mild [eye] bags, it’s a way to stave off the need for surgery by filling in that hollow.
The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says, ”there’s no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.
Dove Proves Women Are Prettier Than We Think We Are
Do other people see you differently than you see yourself, especially in the looks department? A new Dove campaign “Real Beauty Sketches”, says yes – and offers proof, in the form of forensic sketches.
Dove recruited seven women of different ages and backgrounds and had FBI-trained forensic artist Gil Zamora create composite sketches of them based on descriptions of their own facial features. In this video, produced for the campaign, you can hear the women use phrases like “my mom told me I had a big jaw,” “I kind of have a fat, rounder face,” “I’d say I have a pretty big forehead.”
The women had been asked to spend time with strangers, though neither party was told why. These strangers were later brought one by one into a room with Zamora and asked to describe the women who had been sketched earlier. The two resulting drawings of each woman were then hung side-by-side — and the contrast is pretty stark. The tagline of the campaign is: “You are more beautiful than you think.”
And it’s women’s existing shame that the Dove campaign does a good job of exposing through its sketches.
The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says, ”there’s no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.
Relationships That Work Aren’t Power Plays
by Linda Franklin
Do we really need relationship geniuses telling us what makes love last? Most of the time it comes down to common sense, but I will admit, lots of us lack that quality when it comes to our personal relationships. Too often it becomes a power play, a tug of war of who’s right and who’s wrong.
If you put a relationship in a win/lose situation, it will be you who loses. The question is: Is what you’re doing working or not working?
The quality of a relationship is a function of the extent to which it is built. Is there a solid underlying friendship that meets the needs of the two people involved?
There is no right or wrong way to fix a relationship. Find your own way – the one that works. But recognize when it’s not working and be honest when it needs fixing.
Falling in love is not the same thing as being in love. Embrace the change and know that it takes work.
You don’t fix things by fixing your partner. You don’t necessarily solve problems. You learn how to manage them.
Communicate. Make sure your sentences have verbs. Remember that only 7 percent of communication is verbal. Actions and non-verbal communication speak much louder.
The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says, ”there’s no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.
Vajacial: Pampering Down Below
by Linda Franklin
The quest for perfect skin has led us to a new frontier – The Vajcacial. That’s the new term for beautifying your vagina with a
- 50-minute ‘facial’. You get plucked, cleansed moisturized and covered in a mask.
Women are always looking for the what’s next and this remedy for ingrown hairs and red bumps that often accompany shaving or a bikini wax is it.
In San Francisco Stript Wax Bar owner Katherine Goldman said that demand for the service has increased 30 percent each year since she started offering it in 2010.
They are particularly beneficial after a Brazilian wax, to make sure the area looks perfect after the heavy-duty procedure.
The Vajacial was a ‘lifesaver’ for Christina from San Francisco, she told ABC news. She was heading off on her honeymoon trip when she realized her usual Brazilian wax had gone wrong.
Her bikini area broke out in red bumps. ‘It looked like I had an STD,’ she said. ‘There was no way I could sit by the pool, nothing.’
Other salons around the US offer the service under different names. One New York salon calls it a Peach Smoothie.
So what do you think? Have we gone overboard in the care and maintenance of our bodies? Having your nether regions plucked, moisturized and massaged might be carrying things a little too far.
The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.
Cougar Women Have Trouble Trusting
Trust is something we all want and deserve from a partner, but often our past experiences make that difficult to achieve.
Here’s an email I received from a woman who isn’t quite sure if her boyfriend is being totally honest about his intentions.
Dear Linda:
I have read your book “Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am” and I really enjoyed it. I was wondering if you could be so kind as to help me out and give me some of your wise words regarding a new relationship.
I recently met a man who is a police officer. (Nothing like a man in uniform and I’ve never dated one before.) He is 10 years younger, we’re both single and we both have special needs children. We have a lot in common.We have the same likes and he understands the Spiritual Path that I follow.
Here is my concern. I am a very curvaceous, full-figured woman with auburn hair and blue-green eyes. I don’t look my age of 49 – more like I’m in my 30′s. I take good care of myself and I am very confident. It’s just that on a previous occasion, quite a few years ago, another man in uniform told me he liked me, found me very attractive but wouldn’t date me because firefighters and police officers don’t date women like me. They date petite blondes, who are a size 6. They have to date hot women to keep an image, so to speak.
I know that all men are not the same. But I’m a little leery of getting involved with this police officer. I do not want to be out with him, run into some of his co-workers and end up being the butt of some joke. I have talked to him about it and he says he doesn’t care. But his previous girlfriend was, guess what? Petite blonde, size 6 with big breasts.
Your input would be greatly appreciated. Thanks so much.
Dear Unsure:
Don’t let your past experience influence the present. All men aren’t that shallow. Your guy said the age difference doesn’t bother him – but it sure is bothering you. STOP trying to read his mind – it’s impossible to do. Instead, enjoy each other, take one step at a time and silence that nagging voice in your head from ruling your life. Live for now and enjoy the moment. Fear can stop us from doing many things that are beneficial for our growth. Don’t let it rob you of your chance at happiness.
Linda
The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.
Younger Men Think Cougars Are Hot
Allure did another one of those fluffy surveys. This time it was to find out how men and women really feel about a woman’s changing looks, the effects of plastic surgery, and whether sex gets better with age. Allure polled 2,000 people nationwide.
Survey says:
- women believe their beauty peaks at 31 – but agree with men that 30 is the most seductive age for a woman.
- men are the most confident in bed between the ages of 50 and 69, while women experience their peak of sexual confidence between age 18 and 29.
-57% of the men and women polled agreed that sex gets better with age, only a third of male baby boomers said they were attracted to women their own age.
-36% of men between 18 and 29 say that ’cougars are hot’.
-women are more pressured to look young.
-grey hair makes a women look old, but on a man it’s considered distinguished…although 63% of men color their hair to look younger, compared to only 36% of women.
Overall, 70% of men and women say they take non-invasive anti-aging measures, and only 1% admit to getting cosmetic surgery, injections and/or laser treatments.
The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.
Men’s Obsession with Our Boobs
By Linda Franklin
Men’s attitudes toward women actually influence their attitude toward the perfect breast size.
A recent study from the University of Westminster, published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior, showed results after interviewing 361 white, heterosexual men, ranging in age from 18 to 68. Each man was shown five different 3-D models of women, each with a different breast size, and then asked to record which “woman” he found most physically attractive.
Afterward, the participants were given surveys which measured each man’s level of hostility toward women, his attitudes about relationships between men and women, benevolent sexism and how much he objectified women.
The researchers found that the largest percentage of participants (32.7 percent) rated medium-sized breasts as “most attractive,” followed by large (24.4 percent), very large (19.1 percent), small (15.5 percent) and very small (8.3 percent). However, a preference for large and very large breasts was significantly correlated with overt sexism, benevolent sexism, female objectification and hostile attitudes toward women.
In other words, men who tend to idealize “traditional” femininity and perceive women as meek and weak, are also the most likely to prefer big boobs.
Obviously, these findings don’t mean that all men who find big breasts attractive are sexist. But this research is a good reminder that social ideas about what makes a woman sexually desirable don’t just impact the way women feel about themselves or how they imagine men perceive them. Those ideas impact the way that men view women — both how attractive and how powerful men think they are.
The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.
Middle Age Sexy Is The Best
It seems that scarcely a day passes without seeing a survey on some aspect of the middle-aged female experience. Maybe we should feel grateful, because according to one of the surveys I read, pollsters are the only people who find ladies of a certain age even slightly interesting.
This is a sad commentary, but unfortunately it’s true. Of 2,000 women who were surveyed, most agreed that 46 is the age that they become invisible to men.. 
The good news (according to this survey) is that by the time we get to 60 we start feeling better. That’s the good news???? How about the 14 years we are sitting crying in our beer? If we’re smart, and I know we are, we won’t let that happen. We will appreciate who we are, the woman we have grown into at any age we happen to be.
None of us can turn back the clock. In my middle 40′s, I believed I could. I was wrong. I had to figure out for myself, and we all do, how to hold onto your sexy and that fire in your belly.
Here’s a couple of tips I’ll pass on to you if you’re feeling blue because of our age:
- Play up your assets – now it’s time to do what feels good to you - it’s your turn
- Stop Listening to the naysayers who say life is over at 50
- Don’t hold on to relationships that no longer nurture your soul
- Change your look – go from just OK to sexy sophisticated
- Take a risk – get out of your head – say screw you to the fear - and watch what happens
We are powerful, fabulous females and even though we may have to play up different assets as we go through the decades, our confidence, our sexy, and appreciation of life will shine through. Your passion for life will be recognized.
I am convinced that middle-aged women of today are creating another template for aging and it’s not what the pollsters are telling us.
The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.
